The separation from a loved person opens up a scenario of contrasting sensations that dwell within us, making us sometimes lose the sense of balance. Everyone lives this phase in a personal way.
What can you do? Every emotion that accompanies separation needs to be heard in order to be transformed. It is good to take care of yourself and of the pain you feel. You can always do something to reduce its intensity and duration, different for each person. It is often taken by feelings of guilt, anger and loneliness. These emotions can make relationships with others, including family members, more difficult. Conflicts and tensions can be created. Often even the desire and the need to cry is repressed because the people around do not bear the tears.
When the mourning’s emotions take the upper-hand so much as to undermine the progress of one’s life is important WELCOME THE POSSIBILITY OF BEING HELPED.
First of all by people who are close to us and are available (family and friends); if a creed is professed by a minister of worship. Also taking up reading can offer support in interpreting what is happening (our Library specializing in Palliative Care is open on Friday morning 9/12).
Hospice Casa Madonna dell’Uliveto also offers:
The group’s meetings are currently held in Rubiera on Monday at 6-7.45pm
Not to leave the children/s alone, that is, without what is needed for them in the most difficult moment: unspoken words, emotional containment and the possibility of expressing and trusting their feelings.
To make sure that pain does not become traumatic.
The word soothes pain and confronts evil. Pain remains pain, evil remains bad, but the ability to name it makes it more human. Often where the adults remain silent, the children and the boys can find the words. They must be allowed to do it.
A competent support to help our children process the pain of loss and prevent or contain the trauma, if the grief comes suddenly.
Dr. Patrizia De Nunzio
Clinical Psychologist and Psychoanalytic; Psychotherapist of the child/adolescent and adult.
Via V. Marchi, 32 Reggio Emilia +39 329.0737367